Many of us late discovered neurodivergent women "masked" so well, we even fooled ourselves. We repeatedly blamed ourselves for our lifelong struggles basing our identity on being: flawed, broken, too much, not enough, lazy, disorganised, anxious, too sensitive, chaotic, neurotic, sensitive, imposter, fraud, daydreamer, undisciplined, and psycho. I could go on! Not surprisingly we kept so much of ourselves in the dark, hiding behind a shiny facade we showed to the world. It’s

Finally an explanation, we tried as best we could and now we get it, we are simply wired differently. For many it's a light bulb moment, an awakening or perhaps the validation that for so long we have needed. All those years of berating ourselves, hiding, pretending to be who we aren't. We cut ourselves some slack knowing now that it was not our fault and hope...expect that things might now be different. Slowly we realise this is not going to be the case. We may have outgrown

Carl Jung said, "The world will ask you who you are and if you do not know, the world will tell you.” For decades the world told us who we are and we adjusted ourselves at our expense. Knowingly and repeatedly abandoning ourselves to fit society's boxes. Seduced by productivity, materialism and the promise of belonging. Each new glimmer propelled us on to our next jobs and relationship, smiling convincingly through the cycles of crash and burn. We numbed from the internal cha

Carl Jung said, "Loneliness does not come from having no people around you, but from being unable to communicate the things that seem important to you." Physical company is never the issue. The deepest form of loneliness is felt because we struggle to connect to ourselves. Some of the experiences that affect us as neurodivergent women include: Object permanence and object constancy Neurodivergent women can struggle with both of these because of sensory processing issues. For

Life unfolds in so many ways, some joyful and some painful. Sometimes we want to laugh out loud and others times we feel like our chest is being squeezed so tightly we can hardly breathe. It's easy to wish life could be one way. Happiness without sorrow, pleasure without pain, the light without the dark. However this is not reality, this is not life. When we are engulfed by our emotional brain, the dorsal vental part of our sensitive nervous system shuts down. This is a fierc

Cast your mind back to the last time you felt jealousy or envy. I remember it vividly. For me it starts when my mind is automatically focussed on a particular person and a a sudden preoccupation with them. Followed by a train of thought "I don't like the attention person (A) gave to person (B)." Within a couple of minutes I had blown my whole life up in my head. Within seconds i'm filled with negative fantasies playing out in front of my eyes. A minute later, free-fall anxie

“In the midst of winter, I found there was, within me, an invincible summer." Camus's1954 essay is really a reminder of the inevitability of the polarity of life. Most of my adult life I tried to escape the UK winter, heading to South East asia early in December. Returning reluctantly late January. Winter felt sad, dark and lonely. Learning to embrace this cyclical seasonal process has been once of the greatest reframes of my life. Today laughing my tits in the icy loch awake

This post is based on the article Cellular Vitality: Unlocking the Power of Mitochondrial Health Posted on February 18, 2025  by Katie...

Healing can become a treadmill of the latest gurus, sugar coated self-help or just a long line of bad therapists or coaches. A great story on social media grabs our attention especially when we are feeling vulnerable. "Follow THREE secret rules to release your trauma" "I can change your life in THREE easy steps", "I was at rock botton and now I earn six figures from my living room." "My 12 week programme to cure ADHD." "A diet to cure autism"... why wouldn't they work for yo

I'm not Flexible. Is the number ONE reason why people don't try yoga. This is like telling yourself "I'm not going to the dentist because my teeth are not in great condition." And my reply "Maybe that's why you might want to give it a go.' In Western cultures, yoga is often associated with bendy 20 year old insta gymnasts. That's not yoga. Yoga is not about the shape of your pose but about the shape of your life. And yoga teaches us is how to breathe, move and connect to ours

We know the perils of smoking, however little is published about the seemingly innocuous activity of sitting on a chair? Former NASA scientist, Dr. Joan Vernikos, has compared sitting in a chair for prolonged periods to being weightless in space. It has a devastating effect on our muscles, bones, joints. Sitting in a chair causes the abdominals to lose their tone and strength, results in a lack of mobility in the hips and shortens our hip flexors. This means we are prone to c

Mindfulness meditation (MM) has been hailed as the cure for everything from depression to autism, from chronic pain to diabetes. In Sport...

Sadly 2020 marked the passing of Sir Ken Robinson. I've always respected Sir Ken Robinson's work in education and his TED talk is the...