Late discovered neurodivergence is an explanation! It was not our fault, we tried as best we could. A nd as the mask drops we hope that we can move towards and finally live a life that we have longed for. That our guilt, shame and regret will melt away and we and the world will accept and support us for who we are. Then when nothing changes, we feel more alone, more isolated than ever. We are caught between two worlds the one we have believed and trusted and the emerging rea

Carl Jung said, "The world will ask you who you are and if you do not know, the world will tell you.” For decades the world told us who we are and we adjusted ourselves at our expense. Knowingly and repeatedly abandoning ourselves to fit society's boxes. Seduced by productivity, materialism and the promise of belonging. Each new glimmer propelled us on to our next project. We bounced between jobs and relationships smiling convincingly through the cycles of crash and burn. We

Carl Jung said, "Loneliness does not come from having no people around you, but from being unable to communicate the things that seem important to you." Physical company is never the issue. The deepest form of loneliness is felt because we struggle to connect to ourselves. When clients present in my therapy room, it's often because they feel lonely, have lost their sense of belonging and in need of a tribe. It becomes a journey to get oneself, to know how to belong to onesel

Life unfolds in so many ways, some joyful and some painful. Sometimes we want to laugh out loud and others we feel like our chest is being squeezed so tightly we can hardly breathe. It's easy to wish life could be one way. Happiness without sorrow, pleasure without pain, the light without the dark. But this is not reality...this is not life. When the tsunami comes and we are engulfed by our emotional brain, the dorsal vental part of our sensitive nervous system shuts down. Th

“In the midst of winter, I found there was, within me, an invincible summer." Camus's1954 essay is really a reminder of the inevitability of the polarity of life. Most of my adult life I tried to escape the UK winter, heading to South East asia early in December. Returning reluctantly late January. Winter felt sad, dark and lonely. Learning to embrace this cyclical seasonal process has been once of the greatest reframes of my life. Today laughing my tits in the icy loch awake

This post is based on the article Cellular Vitality: Unlocking the Power of Mitochondrial Health Posted on February 18, 2025  by Katie...

Healing can become a treadmill of the latest gurus, sugar coated self-help or just a long line of bad therapists or coaches. A great story on social media grabs our attention especially when we are feeling vulnerable. "Follow THREE secret rules to release your trauma" "I can change your life in THREE easy steps", "I was at rock botton and now I earn six figures from my living room." "My 12 week programme to cure ADHD." "A diet to cure autism"... why wouldn't they work for yo

Cast your mind back to the last time you felt jealousy or envy. I remember it vividly. A seemingly rational thought. "I don't like the...

I'm not Flexible. Is the number ONE reason why people don't try yoga. This is like telling yourself "I'm not going to the dentist because my teeth are not in great condition." And my reply "Maybe that's why you might want to give it a go.' In Western cultures, yoga is often associated with bendy 20 year old insta gymnasts. That's not yoga. Yoga is not about the shape of your pose but about the shape of your life. And yoga teaches us is how to breathe, move and connect to ours

We know the perils of smoking, however little is published about the seemingly innocuous activity of sitting on a chair? Former NASA scientist, Dr. Joan Vernikos, has compared sitting in a chair for prolonged periods to being weightless in space. It has a devastating effect on our muscles, bones, joints. Sitting in a chair causes the abdominals to lose their tone and strength, results in a lack of mobility in the hips and shortens our hip flexors. This means we are prone to c

Mindfulness meditation (MM) has been hailed as the cure for everything from depression to autism, from chronic pain to diabetes. In Sport...

Sadly 2020 marked the passing of Sir Ken Robinson. I've always respected Sir Ken Robinson's work in education and his TED talk is the...